Crossdressing — Do I have to be submissive?

Crossdressing — Do I have to be submissive?

I was asked a curious question by a member this week. I’d just got back from a dance class with Sylvester, my mechanic. Admittedly going to a dance class with Sylvester is a little like taking a gorilla for tea with the Queen, but it is nothing if not entertaining.

“If I am a crossdresser, does that mean I have to be submissive?” wrote my member in an email.

“What do you think,” I asked Sylvester.

“There was nothing submissive about the way you were leading on the dance floor,” mumbled Sylvester. He really can be most uncouth at times. I poured a little more tea into his cup, and was strangely reminded of a time I’d been taken to the circus as a child and seen a chimpanzees tea party. One doesn’t see that sort of thing these days, but the image remains. I think Sylvester might have felt very much at home in that company.

However, the question did get me thinking. I do feel that when we dress we do take on a feminine form of ourselves. For many crossdressers, the act of dressing allows their submissive side to come out. That’s not to say they ‘create’ it. It’s been there all the time, however they’ve not found a way to allow it to emerge. The freedom of crossdressing does open the floodgates…