Having ‘the talk’ — ‘Darling, I think I’m trans!’

Many of us worry that sharing the changes we’re going through will destroy our relationships, particularly if we’ve been partnered for many years. There are certainly situations where this is the case, however it doesn’t always need to be that way. If you’re interested in preserving your relationship you may want to read on.

Partners generally can be very accepting as long as they don’t feel their relationship or security is threatened. So, for example, if you choose to share that you are experiencing some shifts emotionally, you’re likely to get a lot further than simply declaring that you want to be known henceforth as ‘Candy’ and that you’re going to wear stripper clothes to your job at the iron foundry. I think you understand what I am driving at. Communication is the key, and it’s communication at a very gentle level. No one wants to hear an ultimatum, or that ‘everything has to change’.

This is likely to be a conversation that will affect your relationship for years to come. It will likely spill over to include conversations with your children, if you have any. My life was made much easier simply by being outed by a stalker to my kids. I won’t spoil the story, you can read it here — https://fionadobson.com/i-was-outed-to-my-kids-by-my-stalker/ All that said, this is a conversation you want to plan very carefully. You can start…