The pure gold of your hidden feminine self.

When you think of all the things you would like to change about yourself there is a tendency to focus on the aesthetic. Yet we know very well that this is the easy part. The greater achievement is to shift the way we think.

In accepting the female aspect of ourselves we will likely never have a completely feminine experience. We’re not going to experience the pain and joy of childbirth, for example. At least not anytime soon. We will also never experience the angst of the teenage girl developing, nor the uncertainty that many women experience in anticipation of a first date; something that could ending in a deep relationship, or possibly a shallow grave.

But as we make changes to ourselves perhaps we should ask ourselves not merely how we can shift from the male to the female, but also how we can develop those aspects of our feminine self that benefit others. I know it seems a little unusual to some but helping each other is one way we can really advance our wellbeing. As people in the gender fluid space this is not merely a nice thought, it is very much a part of our survival strategy. By helping those less fortunate than ourselves we undermine those who would be critical of our journey, and we exercise the nurturing side of our feminine selves. Of course we want to wear the lovely gold dress to the cocktail party, but if in doing so we drive…