Why do I crave wearing women’s clothing?

I work with many members who are both surprised and worried by the fact they have tried female clothing and enjoyed wearing it. Often they’re concerned about how much they’ve enjoyed it.

This can be confusing, and something that they feel at odds with. There’s also a sense that it can be ‘wrong’ and this challenges them. Guilt is, after all, a dangerous thing.

These feelings can be disturbing and a source of confusion. Often I am asked, ‘But why do I feel I want to do this?’

I generally reply that it’s because you’ve been suppressing this side of yourself for a long time. As you accept your feminine side more, so you will enjoy the dressing, and also other aspects of being more feminine.

This doesn’t have to be overtly feminine. As nice as walking down the street in a floral dress may seem, it might not be right for you. There are alternatives, many of which are satisfying and allow you to exercise this part of yourself.

That’s really what this is all about. It feels so good because this is a part of you that you’ve been suppressing very likely for a long time. The more you resist this, the more likely it is to want to express itself. For this very reason we see the common behaviour of people throwing out all the clothes they’ve bought when they feel guilty, only to go out…